Infidelity Counseling

Infidelity counseling deals with cheating, straying, being unfaithful, having an affair and revelation of ill doings. A recent 2017 studies shows men world wide considered to be 40-45% and females to be 20-25% having an affair outside of their heterosexual marriages. The most common reason for infidelity is having an emotional disconnect with the partner. According to a livemint survey conducted on indian marriage states that 41% of men have physically active relationships other than their spouse and 51% of women admitted to have an intimate love affair outside of marriage while 77% of Indian women cheats due to boredom in marriage out which 45% of women involve in same sex intimate relationship. However 52% of men and 57% of women cheated on their partners when they were on a business trip.

What is the reason for Infidelity?
A recent survey indicates the most common reason for infidelity is boredom in relationships. The person who has committed infidelity complaints to be unappreciated, unloved, ignored and have insecurities, some even have done under vengeance for the same. All these emotions lead to a secondary feeling of anger, resentment which triggers them to do something not right that they might regret later. We are living in an era where everything is super easily available, like there are a plethora of online dating websites, escort services which increases the infidelity feasibility. Couples also drift apart due to family issues, emotional issues, sexual issues and troubles which they can’t effectively manage results in either one or both of them involve in adultery to find solace outside of the relationship. Couples also drift apart when they spend too much time without each other, a lot can be changed in this significant period and hence increases chances of infidelity. There could be any number of reasons one may commit infidelity, listing all of them here is not practically possible.

In India Bengaluru seemed to be the infidelity capital of the nation, a survey conducted by Gleeden, an online dating website, registered over 1.35 lakh couples in Bengaluru alone have committed infidelity making it India’s highest infidelity in any city.

What is the legal angle of Infidelity?
In India the law for infidelity/adultery is gender biased and concludes any male being accused of adultery may have to undergo 5 years of imprisonment or fine or sometimes both depending upon the gravity of damage. However this law by whole nature is controversial and there is no current evidence of people being convicted under this law. Many men try to convict other men who were intimate with their wife which only perpetuates their social dignity but nothing has yet been achieved from this accusation. However there have been arguments from numerous female lawyers who were against this law as this law clearly understates the fact that females don’t commit adultery as they are being seduced and statements like “Intervening court in who’s sleeping with whom is simply unethical”.
What is emotional infidelity and how much is forgivable? Most people who have been unfaithful to their partner didn’t believe when their partner says that they forgive them. The fact that most men just ignore emotional fidelity however this is what feeds the problem. Emotional infidelity means crossing boundaries of friendship and developing romantic and sexual feelings for someone who isn’t your partner. It is important to communicate and define your emotional needs in the relationship. It is true that emotional affairs don’t actually turn into sexual affairs but the human mind loves to play games, for eg while being intimate with your real partner you might actually be thinking of the other person, which isn’t fit for your current relationship.